I believe that if you want to become a good coder, practice is the most important thing, and having a good solid reference book at your side at all times. The basic syntax of any language can be understood quite quickly, but to put that knowledge to good use takes practice. A lot of practice.
Buy a good book that explains the basics in a good way, several good suggestions have already been given, read it and start coding. When you have gotten a little comfortable with the syntax, check out
bruceeckel.com, he has written two massive books(thinking in java and thinking in c++) that are extremely informative - but not something I recommend for a complete beginner. Best thing - they're both available on the 'net for free.
Pick a project that you would like to work on, like a little game or something that will keep you amused while you learn, it helps.
And don't forget about checking web resources like this forum - others have probably faced the problems you will face, and can help out.